Nick Liberati

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A business & life coach who works with people that are already high-performers - but really want To "kick it up a notch" & are ready to take life-changing action to live lives of Boundless Success. Contact me via email»

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Facing The Giants

Maybe it stems from others telling us, over and over again throughout life, that we can’t do “XYZ”? Whatever the cause, the biggest thing that stands between where one is now and one’s true potential is self-imposed beliefs on our own limitations. Simply put, we get in our own way. Would you ever voluntarily incarcerate yourself in a prison? Probably not! Then why would you let yourself be imprisoned by your own thoughts? Just as bad, why would you let someone else “imprison” you with their thoughts of doubt? It’s really ridiculous, if you think of it.

Here’s another concrete example: In the circus world, baby elephants are secured to a stake via a rope around their leg. This keeps them “under control” and makes it easier for the trainier to train them.

It works – the baby elephant is too small to pull the stake out of the ground. Make no mistake about it, that baby elephant will pull on that stake relentlessly for days, but to no avail – they’re stuck there. Eventually, that baby elephant realizes it futile to keep trying, they’ll never be able to pull that stake out of the ground – they give up and quit trying.

Nothing against elephants, but what that baby elephant doesn’t know is as they grow/mature – had it only kept trying to pull out that stake it could EASILY pull that stake out of the ground and be free.

But, because that elephant stopped trying long long ago, it is oblivious to what IT COULD HAVE DONE.

Now, the good news is that we are not elephants, we’re humans. You may overcome your obstacles on your own. Or a coach, a mentor, boss or spouse – someone who cares about you realizing your full potential and wants more for you – will ask you to pull the stake out of the ground. To tear down the self imposed prison walls, to put on a blindfold so you can’t measure yourself against external limitations and simply live up to your internal UNLIMITED capabilities.

What will you become when you conquer self-limiting beliefs and step into your true potential? Don’t be an elephant!

I urge you to watch this video excerpt of the ‘death crawl’ from the movie Facing The Giants and then get moving to move past your own “50-yard line” and into YOUR “endzone”.

Attitude Is A Choice

Ask yourself these questions:  Do I recognize the opportunity in each situation or feel victimized?  Am I a winner or a whiner?  Is the glass half-full or half-empty?

Notice that for each question, there are two choices?  There may be more that weren’t listed. The point is, you have a choice.  The motivation for writing this particular blog post is an all too familiar situation we’ve all likely encountered in some way or another. Yesterday I was flying home from Phoenix.  Long story short, my flight was delayed for 2.5 hours due to the weather in Chicago.

Like many, my initial feeling was that of frustration…until I reminded myself that I have a choice in how I respond.  First, I re-framed the situation – choosing not to label it as good or bad, but rather to accept it for what it was.  The fact is, the flight was delayed, and there’s nothing I could do about that – “It is what it is”. What I could do something about was my attitude towards the situation.

What a shift!  I now felt empowered, not like a victim.  I recognized that I can create an opportunity with this ‘gift of time’.  Hey, Sky Harbor Airport has free Wi-Fi, so I logged-on to my Mac and caught up on a bunch of the emails that I’ve had lingering longer than I’d care to admit – like the ones to my good friends – Ivan at Nutrolution and Vern at ThaiPulse to congratulate him on the impending launch of his new Thailand travel website.  Then there were some reports that I needed to complete for the end of the week – knocked them out too.

“Hey Nick, it’s been a while since you’ve spoken to …”  So, I called my buddy Pete in St. Louis and then Jack at Govig BioPharma. Finally, there are some great blogs where I’ve fallen behind on my reading, so I got caught up on reading/learning from Nate Riggs and downloading articles from Inc. Answers.

Holy crap!  I’ve gotten a lot done and my glass is beyond half-full.  I felt energized by the fact that I felt in control of a situation where I initially felt frustrated and victimized.  All because I reminded myself that I have a choice in how I respond – my attitude!

By the time I boarded the plane, I was thankful for the opportunity that the airlines presented to me.  On the flight home I was able to set-aside any work and reward myself, becoming immersed in leisure-reading of the book I just started.

Suffice it to say that I’m sure I felt much different than the fella that was sitting next to me in the airport.  He kept calling his wife to complain about the delay, looking at his watch, and lamenting how yet again the airlines foiled his plans.  Guess he made a different choice :-) .

Now, I’m not saying that a good attitude guarantees success or happiness.  But, a bad attitude will surely guarantee otherwise.

What choices will you make?  How will you recognize that everything is an opportunity?  Willing to share a story of your own in this regard?  If so, leave a comment below, I’d love to hear about it and be inspired by you!

Do You Believe In Miracles?

1980 US Olympic Hockey Team

1980 US Olympic Hockey Team

Do You Believe In Miracles?

Thirty years ago today; February 22nd, 1980 was anything but another ordinary day.

The triumph of the US Olympic hockey team in Lake Placid NY, beating the Russians, and going on to win the Gold Medal against Finland; is regarded as one of the greatest moments in Olympic history…if not in all of sports. There’s real-life lessons to be learned from these ‘young kids’ (average age 22) about transcending doubt (self-doubt and that of others) and achieving goals (pun intended) – achievement where everyone in the world counted them out.

You see, a few weeks before the Olympics, the US Team decidedly got annihilated by the Russians…10-3. History could easily not have been made, had the US succumbed to what many would have, and that is believing an Assumption or Limiting Belief.

An Assumption is something to the effect “well, we got beat pretty bad a few weeks ago, it’s likely to happen again”. Basically, assuming that what has happened in the past is likely to be the same result in a similar situation in the future.

A Limiting Belief is a generally accepted truth imposed by the thoughts/comments of others that something is not possible, but has no real merit as being an absolute truth.  The announcers, hockey experts – everyone; felt that the Russians were the greatest hockey team in the world at that time, and that there wasn’t any way that the US Team could possibly prevail.

The goals you wish to achieve may or may not be as monumental as those achieved by the US Hockey Team, however whatever your goals, following these five tips will bring you closer to achieving them.

1. Write Down Your Goals

You probably heard this countless times but do you do this? Do you write your goals down and review them on a regular basis. All great goal achievers write their goals down. They write them down in detail and they write down a synopsis of their goals as well – perhaps on a 3×5 index card or a special card created specifically for this purpose that they can regularly review. Work backwards from your end goal, and set targets within those goals.  Maybe you’d want to post your written goals on the dashboard of your car, the bathroom mirror, or your refrigerator – somewhere that you’ll see them frequently to re-affirm them.

Something magical happens when you write down your goals.  Won’t you give it a try?

2. Share Your Goals, But Be Selective With Whom You Share Them:

Let’s be real, not everyone is going to be supportive of you achieving your goals.

There are people who will support you and there will be people who, if they had their way, would dash your hopes and dreams to pieces. And it may simply be a matter of their insecurities, jealousy,  or them wanting to see you experience disappointment should your goal not materialize as you plan.

So share your goals with those who you know will support you and those who you know can help you to achieve your goals.

In the case of a team, it helps to establish a common goal that is shared across all members.

3. Visualize Your Goals With A Positive Outcome

Visualisation is critical to the goal achievement process. You not only have to be able to visualize yourself completing your goal, you have to sense the feeling and exilaration – feeling the feeling of achievement.  Imagine others congratulating you on your achievement, what opportunities may open up for you down the road after you’ve achieved your goal.  How will your life be different afterwards?  On the flip-side, if you picture yourself failing in your pursuit, you’ve sealed your fate before you’ve started and are likely to live-out a self-fulfilling prophecy of falling short.

Can you imagine if the US Hockey team replayed in their mind, over and over again, each of the ten goals that the Russians scored just a few weeks earlier how the result on February 22nd, 1980 would have been different?

The beauty about positive visualization is that it’s something you can do almost anytime and anywhere, although first thing in the morning and last thing at night are two excellent times to visualize your goals.

4. Cultivate Your Mental Strength

Learning to “win” comes from the experience of “losing”. Do you view failure as a bump in the road and opportunity from which to learn, or does it shatter your confidence and cause you to second-guess yourself?  How you interpret the inevitable setbacks you experience tests the mettle of your mental fortitude.

The US Hockey team was trounced 10-3 just prior to the Winter Games.  Certainly a score to crush the spirit and border on the verge of embarrassment for an individual or a group. In fact, the US trailed the Russians twice during their monumental game, and were losing 3-2 in the third period. Obviously ‘the boys of Winter’ were able to pick themselves up by their bootstraps and rise to the challenge.

One way to develop your mental fortitude and ‘sticktoittiveness’ is to have a big reason why – something that will help to keep you motivated.

5. Be Dedicated To The Pursuit Of Your Goals

The fast-paced world in which we live is filled with distractions.  Focus, sacrifice, and dedication can be challenged by what’s happening around you.  To achieve your goals, your internal compass must remain true to the path that you’ve set for yourself.  To differentiate yourself you must be prepared to do things that others are not.

Much can happen to distract you and obstruct your progress, so you really do need single-mindedness of purpose.  In the pursuit of your goal, everything will likely not be ideal.  Situations are likely to come up that you hadn’t anticipated.  That is why it is important to have contingency plans in your preparation and consider some of the hurdles that may occur, and develop action plans for how you will deal with these.  Proper preparation will render these events to being minor hiccups, and not a major derailment in your pursuit.

After all, the ultimate goal of the US Hockey team was to win the Gold Medal.  There work was not done by beating the Russians, they still had to remain focused on the game two days later against Finland to achieve their crowning glory.  Can you imagine how insignificant the game against the Russians would be had the US not completed their quest for the Gold Medal?

In Summary

To quote Herb Brooks, the coach of that US Hockey Team, from his speech in the locker room just before the big game:

“Great moments… are born from great opportunity. And that’s what you have here, tonight, boys. That’s what you’ve earned here tonight. One game. If we played ‘em ten times, they might win nine. But not this game…not tonight. Tonight, we skate with them. Tonight, we stay with them. And we shut them down because we can! Tonight, WE are the greatest hockey team in the world.”

Remind yourself that “Tonight, you are the greatest _________ in the world.” And that while you may have your struggles, and fail several times in the pursuit of your goals – “Not tonight!”.

Establish your goals and chart a course for achieving them, pay no mind to the Limiting Beliefs of others, and challenge any of the Assumptions that may come up along the way.

You have dreamed of great opportunities, and will create your own great moments – make ‘tonight’ be every night for you, and embody greatness – for that’s what you’ve earned!

~ Nick