Nick Liberati

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    Tag Archives: attitude

    Facing The Giants

    Maybe it stems from others telling us, over and over again throughout life, that we can’t do “XYZ”? Whatever the cause, the biggest thing that stands between where one is now and one’s true potential is self-imposed beliefs on our own limitations. Simply put, we get in our own way. Would you ever voluntarily incarcerate yourself in a prison? Probably not! Then why would you let yourself be imprisoned by your own thoughts? Just as bad, why would you let someone else “imprison” you with their thoughts of doubt? It’s really ridiculous, if you think of it.

    Here’s another concrete example: In the circus world, baby elephants are secured to a stake via a rope around their leg. This keeps them “under control” and makes it easier for the trainier to train them.

    It works – the baby elephant is too small to pull the stake out of the ground. Make no mistake about it, that baby elephant will pull on that stake relentlessly for days, but to no avail – they’re stuck there. Eventually, that baby elephant realizes it futile to keep trying, they’ll never be able to pull that stake out of the ground – they give up and quit trying.

    Nothing against elephants, but what that baby elephant doesn’t know is as they grow/mature – had it only kept trying to pull out that stake it could EASILY pull that stake out of the ground and be free.

    But, because that elephant stopped trying long long ago, it is oblivious to what IT COULD HAVE DONE.

    Now, the good news is that we are not elephants, we’re humans. You may overcome your obstacles on your own. Or a coach, a mentor, boss or spouse – someone who cares about you realizing your full potential and wants more for you – will ask you to pull the stake out of the ground. To tear down the self imposed prison walls, to put on a blindfold so you can’t measure yourself against external limitations and simply live up to your internal UNLIMITED capabilities.

    What will you become when you conquer self-limiting beliefs and step into your true potential? Don’t be an elephant!

    I urge you to watch this video excerpt of the ‘death crawl’ from the movie Facing The Giants and then get moving to move past your own “50-yard line” and into YOUR “endzone”.

    July 14th, 2011 at 9am
    Posted under attitude, Inspiration tags

    Attitude Is A Choice

    Ask yourself these questions:  Do I recognize the opportunity in each situation or feel victimized?  Am I a winner or a whiner?  Is the glass half-full or half-empty?

    Notice that for each question, there are two choices?  There may be more that weren’t listed. The point is, you have a choice.  The motivation for writing this particular blog post is an all too familiar situation we’ve all likely encountered in some way or another. Yesterday I was flying home from Phoenix.  Long story short, my flight was delayed for 2.5 hours due to the weather in Chicago.

    Like many, my initial feeling was that of frustration…until I reminded myself that I have a choice in how I respond.  First, I re-framed the situation – choosing not to label it as good or bad, but rather to accept it for what it was.  The fact is, the flight was delayed, and there’s nothing I could do about that – “It is what it is”. What I could do something about was my attitude towards the situation.

    What a shift!  I now felt empowered, not like a victim.  I recognized that I can create an opportunity with this ‘gift of time’.  Hey, Sky Harbor Airport has free Wi-Fi, so I logged-on to my Mac and caught up on a bunch of the emails that I’ve had lingering longer than I’d care to admit – like the ones to my good friends – Ivan at Nutrolution and Vern at ThaiPulse to congratulate him on the impending launch of his new Thailand travel website.  Then there were some reports that I needed to complete for the end of the week – knocked them out too.

    “Hey Nick, it’s been a while since you’ve spoken to …”  So, I called my buddy Pete in St. Louis and then Jack at Govig BioPharma. Finally, there are some great blogs where I’ve fallen behind on my reading, so I got caught up on reading/learning from Nate Riggs and downloading articles from Inc. Answers.

    Holy crap!  I’ve gotten a lot done and my glass is beyond half-full.  I felt energized by the fact that I felt in control of a situation where I initially felt frustrated and victimized.  All because I reminded myself that I have a choice in how I respond – my attitude!

    By the time I boarded the plane, I was thankful for the opportunity that the airlines presented to me.  On the flight home I was able to set-aside any work and reward myself, becoming immersed in leisure-reading of the book I just started.

    Suffice it to say that I’m sure I felt much different than the fella that was sitting next to me in the airport.  He kept calling his wife to complain about the delay, looking at his watch, and lamenting how yet again the airlines foiled his plans.  Guess he made a different choice :-) .

    Now, I’m not saying that a good attitude guarantees success or happiness.  But, a bad attitude will surely guarantee otherwise.

    What choices will you make?  How will you recognize that everything is an opportunity?  Willing to share a story of your own in this regard?  If so, leave a comment below, I’d love to hear about it and be inspired by you!

    May 8th, 2010 at 10am
    Posted under attitude tags

    Are You a Baby Monkey or a Kitten?

    It’s no secret that your attitude determines your potential for ‘success’ in relationships, career, even your internal ‘success’ with yourself.  After all, we’ve all heard the ol’ saying “Your Attitude Determines Your Altitude”.  Examine your attitude/beliefs/thoughts.  Are they helping or hurting you?

    My previous blog post focused on change, and looked at different responses that people may have to change.  At the end of it, I asked you to consider the question posed in the title of this post, without any context.  This post is an extension of that discussion. Let me bring you further ‘into the light’ on the monkey and the kitten.

    The reason I ask the question is tied to two basic attitudes, related to how each animal deals with stress and change.  Think about how a kitten responds when in danger or is confused.  It will nearly be paralyzed with fright and meow until its mother arrives to carry it off to safety.  Kind of a victim mentality.  By contrast, consider a baby monkey faced with a similar situation.  At the first sign of trouble the baby monkey seeks out its mother, jumps on her back and rides off safety…all the while holding on.

    Two similar themes here, but different approaches.  Both animals recognize that they need help to manage the situation. However, the monkey plays an active role in it’s flight to safety, while that of the kitten is rather passive.

    Coaching a ‘kitten’ can be very challenging, and unless one can breakthrough the ‘victim’ mentality of a kitten, it often yields unsustainable results.  Coaching is ideally suited for ‘monkeys’ – those willing to actively work on themselves, and enjoy the fruit which that work can bring.  Not to fret if you’re a ‘kitten’, there is hope.  Coaching can help eliminate the attitude of being helpless, by dismantling that victim mentality, it’s just a little more work than coaching a ‘monkey’.  The results after the breakthrough, however, can be no less than spectacular.

    And so, I ask the question again: “Are You A Baby Monkey Or A Kitten?”

    December 12th, 2009 at 9pm
    Posted under Navigating Change tags