Nick Liberati

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Redefining Failure

Life is full of challenges. Do you look at them as challenges or ‘problems’?
They say you can’t win them all…which is probably true. How do you respond when you don’t meet the challenge? Do you focus and remember the times where you “fell down” or the times where you’ve gotten back up and went on?

It’s easy to go through life and do the ‘easy’ stuff. When you “put yourself out there” and strive for something beyond yourself, that’s a challenge. You may fall short, but you’ll be surprised at how alive you will feel in trying!

Instead of having the perspective that you’ve failed, when you fall short, how about turning this thinking around? Adopt the thought that “I didn’t fail, this was one isolated situation that was just a non-success” – a hiccup in the road, if you will, to achieving your ultimate goal and meeting the challenge.

In fact, I think even writing this just made me change my mindset about non-success.  Rather than call it failure, it’s just a non-success.  A non event that was a stepping stone onto the end goal.  Like riding a bike – you probably didn’t stay upright on the first try after the training wheels were removed.

Did you put the training wheels back on?

Quit trying altogether, or keep trying?

One of the worst things to do is listen to those who tell you:

  • “you’re not cut out for this”,
  • “try something else” or
  • “why don’t you just give up?”.

Worse yet is if YOU are telling yourself these things. You see, we have a tendency to manifest our own thoughts and become what we think.  We gravitate towards our most dominant thoughts.

In the spirit of a challenge, I challenge you to redefine failure as a non-success, and realize that everything is an opportunity.  Don’t worry, you’ll fall down sometimes – just get back up.   Can you imagine what history would be like if these people accepted “Failure”?  They would have never developed into their greatness.  Non-success can fuel your greatness, but ‘failure’ can cripple you! Which will it be for you?

Do You Believe In Miracles?

1980 US Olympic Hockey Team

1980 US Olympic Hockey Team

Do You Believe In Miracles?

Thirty years ago today; February 22nd, 1980 was anything but another ordinary day.

The triumph of the US Olympic hockey team in Lake Placid NY, beating the Russians, and going on to win the Gold Medal against Finland; is regarded as one of the greatest moments in Olympic history…if not in all of sports. There’s real-life lessons to be learned from these ‘young kids’ (average age 22) about transcending doubt (self-doubt and that of others) and achieving goals (pun intended) – achievement where everyone in the world counted them out.

You see, a few weeks before the Olympics, the US Team decidedly got annihilated by the Russians…10-3. History could easily not have been made, had the US succumbed to what many would have, and that is believing an Assumption or Limiting Belief.

An Assumption is something to the effect “well, we got beat pretty bad a few weeks ago, it’s likely to happen again”. Basically, assuming that what has happened in the past is likely to be the same result in a similar situation in the future.

A Limiting Belief is a generally accepted truth imposed by the thoughts/comments of others that something is not possible, but has no real merit as being an absolute truth.  The announcers, hockey experts – everyone; felt that the Russians were the greatest hockey team in the world at that time, and that there wasn’t any way that the US Team could possibly prevail.

The goals you wish to achieve may or may not be as monumental as those achieved by the US Hockey Team, however whatever your goals, following these five tips will bring you closer to achieving them.

1. Write Down Your Goals

You probably heard this countless times but do you do this? Do you write your goals down and review them on a regular basis. All great goal achievers write their goals down. They write them down in detail and they write down a synopsis of their goals as well – perhaps on a 3×5 index card or a special card created specifically for this purpose that they can regularly review. Work backwards from your end goal, and set targets within those goals.  Maybe you’d want to post your written goals on the dashboard of your car, the bathroom mirror, or your refrigerator – somewhere that you’ll see them frequently to re-affirm them.

Something magical happens when you write down your goals.  Won’t you give it a try?

2. Share Your Goals, But Be Selective With Whom You Share Them:

Let’s be real, not everyone is going to be supportive of you achieving your goals.

There are people who will support you and there will be people who, if they had their way, would dash your hopes and dreams to pieces. And it may simply be a matter of their insecurities, jealousy,  or them wanting to see you experience disappointment should your goal not materialize as you plan.

So share your goals with those who you know will support you and those who you know can help you to achieve your goals.

In the case of a team, it helps to establish a common goal that is shared across all members.

3. Visualize Your Goals With A Positive Outcome

Visualisation is critical to the goal achievement process. You not only have to be able to visualize yourself completing your goal, you have to sense the feeling and exilaration – feeling the feeling of achievement.  Imagine others congratulating you on your achievement, what opportunities may open up for you down the road after you’ve achieved your goal.  How will your life be different afterwards?  On the flip-side, if you picture yourself failing in your pursuit, you’ve sealed your fate before you’ve started and are likely to live-out a self-fulfilling prophecy of falling short.

Can you imagine if the US Hockey team replayed in their mind, over and over again, each of the ten goals that the Russians scored just a few weeks earlier how the result on February 22nd, 1980 would have been different?

The beauty about positive visualization is that it’s something you can do almost anytime and anywhere, although first thing in the morning and last thing at night are two excellent times to visualize your goals.

4. Cultivate Your Mental Strength

Learning to “win” comes from the experience of “losing”. Do you view failure as a bump in the road and opportunity from which to learn, or does it shatter your confidence and cause you to second-guess yourself?  How you interpret the inevitable setbacks you experience tests the mettle of your mental fortitude.

The US Hockey team was trounced 10-3 just prior to the Winter Games.  Certainly a score to crush the spirit and border on the verge of embarrassment for an individual or a group. In fact, the US trailed the Russians twice during their monumental game, and were losing 3-2 in the third period. Obviously ‘the boys of Winter’ were able to pick themselves up by their bootstraps and rise to the challenge.

One way to develop your mental fortitude and ‘sticktoittiveness’ is to have a big reason why – something that will help to keep you motivated.

5. Be Dedicated To The Pursuit Of Your Goals

The fast-paced world in which we live is filled with distractions.  Focus, sacrifice, and dedication can be challenged by what’s happening around you.  To achieve your goals, your internal compass must remain true to the path that you’ve set for yourself.  To differentiate yourself you must be prepared to do things that others are not.

Much can happen to distract you and obstruct your progress, so you really do need single-mindedness of purpose.  In the pursuit of your goal, everything will likely not be ideal.  Situations are likely to come up that you hadn’t anticipated.  That is why it is important to have contingency plans in your preparation and consider some of the hurdles that may occur, and develop action plans for how you will deal with these.  Proper preparation will render these events to being minor hiccups, and not a major derailment in your pursuit.

After all, the ultimate goal of the US Hockey team was to win the Gold Medal.  There work was not done by beating the Russians, they still had to remain focused on the game two days later against Finland to achieve their crowning glory.  Can you imagine how insignificant the game against the Russians would be had the US not completed their quest for the Gold Medal?

In Summary

To quote Herb Brooks, the coach of that US Hockey Team, from his speech in the locker room just before the big game:

“Great moments… are born from great opportunity. And that’s what you have here, tonight, boys. That’s what you’ve earned here tonight. One game. If we played ‘em ten times, they might win nine. But not this game…not tonight. Tonight, we skate with them. Tonight, we stay with them. And we shut them down because we can! Tonight, WE are the greatest hockey team in the world.”

Remind yourself that “Tonight, you are the greatest _________ in the world.” And that while you may have your struggles, and fail several times in the pursuit of your goals – “Not tonight!”.

Establish your goals and chart a course for achieving them, pay no mind to the Limiting Beliefs of others, and challenge any of the Assumptions that may come up along the way.

You have dreamed of great opportunities, and will create your own great moments – make ‘tonight’ be every night for you, and embody greatness – for that’s what you’ve earned!

~ Nick

“I Was Hot As A Pistol”

No matter how many times I watch this video, I get goose-bumps every time. I resurrected this video from my favorites that I’ve saved on YouTube. It’s been several years since this story originally came to light, and chances are, you may have seen it before. But please, indulge me for 2 minutes and 45 seconds, and watch the video again.

This video contains one of the ‘secrets’ to unlocking your success within.

Imagine what Jason probably encountered in his young life.  Countless doubters I’m sure. Folks whispering amongst themselves, unshared thoughts, or blatant comments. Comments like:  ”he’s different”, “he’ll never play basketball”, “he hasn’t got what it takes to do it”, “he’s handicapped”, on-and-on…

Everybody, with the exception of a few, had their preconceived notions about Jason’s limitations – the limiting beliefs that would hold him back.  Everybody except Jason!

If one is not careful it’s easy to slip into believing the limitations that others, or worse yet you, may impose on what you can truly achieve.  Being ‘typecast’ or ‘pigeon-holed’ is what happens when we listen to the limiting beliefs, negative assumptions, or interpretations of situations expressed by ourselves or others.

It doesn’t have to be that way.  You have the power to choose what you believe to be true. Jason’s video is here to teach you one thing:  There aren’t any opinions or preconceptions that are powerful enough to change who you really are and what you are completely capable of…without your permission.

If you have a steadfast belief – in yourself,  in your capability, in your dreams, in your talent, in your intelligence, or in your desire – you are miles ahead of most folks.  The idle commentary from others is rendered as meaningless as a compass without a needle.

They can’t change you or stop you. There is nothing that can hold you back; there is nothing that you can’t achieve if only you know you can achieve it.

I’d like to thank Jason McElwain; an enthusiastic, determined, simply amazing young man from upstate New York; for teaching an invaluable lesson.

It’s up to you.  It’s your choice.  What’s holding you back from becoming “hot as a pistol”?

~ Nick